Danielle LaPorte has a Burning Question series going on over at her site in which she has asked her readers to name one dumb thing they used to believe in.   Wow, just one?  I've got a metric ton of dumb things I used to believe in.  Hell, half of them got me started as a blogger!  The hours I used to waste blogging about the way things ought to be and the ways people ought to behave are staggering to remember.  Did I really ever waste all that energy being irritated by everyday dumbassity?  Yes, I did.  I did it because one of the biggest dumb things I ever believed was that I was right.

That's not to say I decided I was wrong.  I just finally wised up about the notion that my choices were right and someone else's were wrong.  There is no such thing as a right choice or a wrong choice.  Choice cannot be right or wrong; good or bad.  Choices can be made from healthy places of good intentions or they can be made from dark places of ignorance and pain but it isn't the choice that is right or wrong.  The choices we are make for our lives are directly relative to either the truths we admit to ourselves or the lies we tell ourselves.  When those things influence our choices then our choices cannot help but be indicative of what motivated them.  That doesn't make them right or wrong, it only makes them symptomatic of their root cause.

I'm not right and you aren't wrong; we simply have different needs we are nursing with our truths and untruths.  Your choices will change when you embrace your truths, as do/have/will my choices.  It's the same with our untruths.  When we stop feeding ourselves illusions we stop making choices that support them.  It makes no sense to assign qualities of right or wrong to choices simply because they differ from ours because at any given time we are all at different phases of living our real truths--maybe just living them a little, maybe not liiving them at all.  Just like everyone assimilates to potty training at different speeds and via different motivations, so we all come to face our truths at different paces and via different paths.  You aren't right just because you are a little further along and neither am I. 



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